Is it ADHD or Out of sight out of mind?
New episode out now on ADHD or Life – A Couple’s Perspective 🎙️ This week we’re talking about one of the most frustrating (and honestly, relationship-testing) ADHD things going… out of sight, out of mind.
Because it’s not just “oops I forgot” — it can look like forgotten texts, not noticing the bin overflowing, forgetting important dates, not reaching out to friends and family, and leaving washing in the washer… for far too long (much to Donna’s dismay!).
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What we cover in this episode:
- What “out of sight, out of mind” actually means in ADHD (and why it’s not the same as not caring)
- Forgotten texts and the accidental silence that can make people feel ignored
- The bin that somehow becomes invisible until it’s basically a landmark
- Forgetting important dates and how that lands emotionally in a relationship
- Not reaching out to friends and family, even when you love them loads
- The washing left in the washer (and the chaos that follows)
- How this shows up in our relationship: communication, emotional connection, household stuff, and the mental load
- The emotional impact on both partners: the ADHD partner feeling shame and pressure, and the other partner feeling lonely, unimportant, or like they have to carry everything
- Is it ADHD or is it avoidance? We try to tease apart when it’s likely ADHD brain doing ADHD brain things, and when it might be avoidance (and what to do next)
- What helps, what doesn’t, and how we try to meet in the middle without it turning into a blame-fest
Five minute moans:
- Donna is raging about the way Adam handles the bread
- Adam gets the heebie jeebies over Donna and her dishes-in-the-sink antics
And as always, we finish with our listeners’ good, bad and ugly stories — thank you for sending them in. They make us feel seen, and they’ll definitely make you feel less alone too.
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